Articles bring messages that creates successes!

Have you ever read an article that helped you or a loved one, when you least expected it? Did it seem to appear at just the right time? Did it inform you of something you were not searching for?  Success in many areas of our lives often originates from messages from our guidance.

 

This type of information, whether it comes from a magazine, a book, an email, or social media, can be considered a message especially when it positively influences your life.  When you step back and look at these types of experiences, it will amaze you how much information appears at the most opportune time. I have had this experience many times and I have come to recognize and know that this is my guidance helping me on my path.

So, what makes it a message?

      • First, the information you receive seems as if it comes out of the blue
      • Next, you have an undeniable feeling that this information just might be important.
      • And lastly, you weren’t looking for it, but there it is, staring at you, and you realize that you have just been handed information that might solve a problem.

Learning to follow your feelings is very important in working with your messages.  You may have learned to ignore your feelings in favor of following logic or someone else’s ideas.   So, it may take time to reconnect to your feelings, but it is well worth the effort to develop.  Play with them. Make time to explore and play with your feelings, and soon you’ll see that you have this guidance built right into you!

 

Your guidance gives you messages in a variety of ways. It will give you messages that are specific to you and in a manner that will resonate with you.  For example, if you like to read, articles and books may be one of the ways your guidance may choose to communicate with you. It may choose other ways such as animals, people, or dreams depending on your interests.  However, since you are reading this article, I’m sure that this is one of the ways your guidance has chosen to work with you!

 

I received this type of message just yesterday. As I was perusing Facebook, I ran across a post that explained how Chinese herbal medicine and science may not be in alignment.  As I read the article, it confirmed for me, what I have felt to be true.  I knew it was a message because I wasn’t looking for this information and I probably would not have searched it out.  But there it was!

 

This article helped to deepen my connection with herbs and my practice of Chinese Medicine and hopefully will help me to become a better practitioner.  The article pointed out how herbs have an impact on the human spirit, physical vigor and it’s even at times your willpower—and it is these attributes that are difficult to be measured in a test tube.

 

Start to notice how information that affects your life shows up. 

 

See how this information helps you in your job, relationships, and projects. We often refer to it as a “coincidence” or “luck,” however, there really are no coincidences!  For more information on your messages and guidance, please read my book Your Personal Guidance System,”where you learn what it is and how to work with it.  I know you won’t be disappointed as you discover the help that is always there waiting to assist you.

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8 Benefits of Kindness & Helping Others

At this time in the world where there is a lot of uncertainty, being kind and considerate of others is very important. When you can lend a helping hand to someone, it can ease anxiety and worry, creating a better place for everyone.

Do you remember a situation when you surprised someone with something special for them? How did you feel?  How did they feel?  This state of connection and joy that you experienced, decreases worries, anxiety, and fear.  These emotions reduce and “go out the window”—at least for a while. Now imagine, feeling this way all the time.  All it takes is kindness towards another being—animal, plant, or human to create this.

What is even better is that everyone wins!!  It is a win-win situation.

Here are 8 Ways You Win with Kindness!

      1. It can help reduce depression Remember the last time you did something nice for someone? How did it make you feel?  A sense of Joy? Peace? Satisfaction? Sadness disappears.
      2. It deepens your ties with others and you gain new friends.  A bond is formed when someone is helped by another person.  Think about your friends and those that have helped you and the bond you developed.  Isn’t your tie to them deeper than those who are acquaintances?
      3. When you help another person, you gain self-confidence. Your character grows which helps you as you traverse the world.
      4. Increases positive energy for you, the person you help, and the world! All parties benefit! Being kind to others—enriches your life as you see the joy in others.  It enriches their life, so now you have 2 positive energies in the world which can go out and create more positive energy. Remember how a smile creates another smile?  Kindness creates Kindness!
      5. Being of service to others fills your heart and soul with a sense of joy and satisfaction. It gives you experiences to learn by and understand life.
      6. Volunteering helps builds community, social ties and creates new friends. You find new friends who have the same interest vs. working someplace, where you are “just doing a job”.  These relationships reduce stress.
      7. Volunteering can also aid you in your career, creating new connections and the experiences give you confidence and character. You never know where the person you meet will help you down the road.
      8. Creates gratefulness for what you have and allows you to see humanity differently.

Helping others is just good business!!  Everyone wins!

Now that we know how beneficial it is to help another, here are some ideas and reminders of things we can do.  These are easy to do when you get caught up in a busy life.  When doing these acts, remember to do it from your heart!

Here are 8 things you can do!

      1. Listen to someone. This is such a valuable gift. Oftentimes you can offer a different perspective that they had never considered, thus enriching their life.  Do you recall the time when someone took the time to listen to you?  They may not have been able to help, but you were heard and that is priceless.
      2. Smile at someone. A contagious act, which can be done all day long!!
      3. Volunteer—find a charity that you like. It doesn’t matter what that charity is the benefits that come are well worth it.
      4. Call an old friend. We lose touch with many people, and a phone call periodically raises the joy in both people.  Reconnect!
      5. Leave a dollar bill someplace for someone to find and attach a note wishing them well. By giving anonymously and without attachment, creates a sense of adventure and fun.  Try it!
      6. Buy someone you don’t know a drink or meal. This can be done when you are out somewhere by using the waitress and clerk.  Do it anonymously and watch the joy that ensues!
      7. Find someone in your community that has had some struggles and anonymously “adopt” them and leave inspirational gifts or needed items. Again, reap the benefits that this brings.
      8. Allow yourself to be served, it levels the playing ground and allows the other person to have dignity and a good feeling. Everyone wins!

When you intend to benefit others, you receive so much.

No one has ever become poor by giving.”  

Anne Frank

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My interview with Randi Fine, of A Fine Time for Healing, can be accessed here! We discuss what is a guidance system, the different messengers. Discover what are Fun and Challenging messages. Learn the difference between #emotions and #feelings and many other topics from my book “Your Personal Guidance System: Unlock the Door to the Universe and Experience the Magic.”

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Self-doubt and 8 ways you can eliminate it!

The universe is always giving messages to help you.  These messages assist in making decisions and guide you on a path that creates a life filled with joy and happiness.  The problem is we often ignore these messages, primarily due to doubt. Whether it is about the message, ourselves, or our own abilities, doubt wreaks havoc in many ways.

When I reflected on messages I didn’t follow or ignored, I found the following.

      • I ignored messages due to self-doubt- I was afraid to follow my feelings and therefore discounted the messages I received.
      • I justified ignoring my feelings, believing that others knew better or more than I did.
      • I didn’t research my feelings. I just gave my power to other people.  No research or confirmation of whether these feelings were true or not.

So, what happens when you ignore gut feelings due to your self-doubt?

      • It prevents you from moving forward—procrastination, hesitation, or ignoring a situation sets in.
      • It stops you from starting or completing things.
      • Makes you afraid to ask others, lest you show your “ignorance” or “weakness”
      • Let’s you give your power to others

These actions or inactions create many problems, and it’s primarily due to our own self-doubt.  Signs that self-doubt is at work can be found when your efforts produce little to no results, an inability to make decisions, and/or simply ignoring important things.  Some of the things you might find yourself saying indicate that self-doubt is active are:

      • What if I mess things up?
      • What will people think?
      • I’ll probably make a fool of myself
      • I can’t or I don’t do anything very well
      • I’m just not smart (enough), talented (enough), capable (enough), experienced (enough)…

When you hear yourself stating these ideas to yourself or others, it’s time to stop and notice what you just said.  Ask yourself some questions.  Does it really matter what other people think?  People are usually so involved in themselves that they rarely look at others.  What if something doesn’t go right? Isn’t this an opportunity to learn from it?

I have found when I face my self-doubts and simply say no to them, I can see the situation more clearly.  I realize that my fears and doubts have been magnified based on silly beliefs and often are simply not true. My mind and body feel lighter as I approach the problem with a new perspective.

It’s time to question whether these thoughts are real or coming from insecurity. Ask yourself, “Where do these thoughts come from?  Are they true?”  We may feel we aren’t enough, but in reality, we are perfect just as we are at that moment.  We can always learn or gain more experience to improve our skills, but that comes from trying new things and eliminating the fear of failure.   Failure should be embraced as an opportunity to grow and learn.

When you face your doubts and fear there is a lot to be gained and very little to be lost.  You gain:

      • Confidence- when you recognize your own strengths and abilities
      • Ability to speak up and share your thoughts, ideas, and abilities, which creates forward movement
      • Better decision-making skills
      • You acknowledge your messages and dare to follow them!

Now that you understand the benefits of releasing your fears and self-doubts, here are some ideas you can utilize to stop doubting yourself.

      1. Be kind to yourself—don’t beat yourself up. Life is a learning process—enjoy it
      2. Say no to the doubt immediately—re-evaluate the situation.
      3. Step back and be an observer. Listen to your thoughts. Are they based in reality? Are they echoes of someone else’s voice telling you that you can’t do this or that?
      4. Don’t compare yourself—know you have gifts and talents that are unique to you. Your gifts and talents have as much value as any other persons’ gifts.
      5. Look and see how much you already know and understand, recognize how much you have grown in your life. Congratulate yourself!
      6. Investigate how you can increase your abilities. Take a course. Read a book. Research it. Practice.  Embrace the process of learning and growing.
      7. Celebrate your successes
      8. Face your fears. Ask the question ‘What is the worst possible thing that can happen.”  If you allow yourself to answer this question, you’ll probably find that the answer is not as big as you have imagined it to be.

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Can a Feather be a Message?

Did you know that you receive messages from your guidance regularly?  We are often unaware of this phenomenon for two primary reasons.

      • We have not been taught that our guidance exists
      • We ignore our feelings and messages, often attributing them to luck or coincidence.

Messages are not only from our feelings and intuition but rather they appear in many ways.  I recently received one in the form of a feather- in fact, it was a black hawk feather!

Let me share my story of this feather and its’ message to illustrate one way you may receive a message.

It was Monday morning and I had an interview with a radio station at 2 pm.  In my excitement, I spent a great deal of time and effort preparing. It was my first interview for my book Your Personal Guidance System.”

That morning as part of my daily routine, I went out to feed my horses.  When I stepped into the road that led to the corral, there was a large black feather on the ground.  This was highly unusual, in fact, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a feather that big.  My first thought was that it was a raven feather, but upon closer inspection, I found it had a white tip.  Ravens are completely black so I knew that this could not belong to them.

We periodically see a black hawk sitting on the electrical pole at the back of the corral.  I wondered if it was one of theirs.  Black hawks do have a white tip at the end of their tail.  By the size of the feather and the white tip, I surmised that it had belonged to a black hawk! I truly love feathers.  When I’m outside I often find different feathers in our yard, and every time I spot one, they are promptly placed in my hair.

Today’s feather was different.  It was large and apparently from a bird that is not around a lot.  Due to the unusualness of the situation, I knew it was a message. I had previously received communication from my guidance in the form of a feather.  So, I was pretty sure they were using this feather to convey a message.  (Everyone does have help.  Your guidance will find ways to get your attention, by using something that resonates with you, to communicate its’ messages.)

I have found that hawks are often messengers, so I understood that it had some significance.  One of my favorite ways to help me interpret my messages is to go the internet and search for the meaning of whatever I have come across.  So that day I searched for the “spiritual meaning of a hawk feather.”  I usually select the first website that shows up or one that catches my attention.  That day I found the first website was called “Meaning of Feathers.”

The following is from the website http://meaningoffeathers.com/hawk-feather-meaning/

Spiritual Meaning of finding a Hawk Feather

“You are being asked to take notice of your dream state and waking state. The Universe, God, Spirit is delivering a message to you and you need to stop, breathe, and take in those messages fully. Your life is taking a turn that will lead you on the path to happiness, joy, success, and love. Stop. Listen. Write down your dreams. Listen to your messages.”

My book is about helping people gain the confidence to follow their dreams by having peace of mind knowing they have help.  The book assists you in learning how to “hear” and “recognize” your guidance when it communicates its’ messages to you.

Just as my feather said.  “Listen to your messages.  … take notice of your dream… Your life is taking a turn that will lead you on the path to happiness, joy, success, and love!”

The feather was an incredible message confirming what is contained in my book! Many people might have looked at the feather as being “cool” but would not have imagined it to be a message!

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Sources of your Limiting Beliefs

Have you ever noticed yourself avoiding certain situations, even though you really wanted to participate?  Do you hold back even though your heart is longing to do something?  You are not alone, many people would like to live their lives a bit differently, but something keeps holding them back.  Discovering your beliefs and where they originated from can help you understand the limits that you have placed on your life.

Finding the source of your beliefs and ideas is important to fully understand just how they came about and the falsities within them.  When you recognize how and where they originated, you can see that these ideas and beliefs may not be true.  The way you interpreted the situation, at that time may have fit the situation, but more than likely it is no longer valid.   When you know where it started you can:

      1. Appreciate how it came about
      2. See the “flaws” in the belief that was formed
      3. Can easily change that belief/idea into a more harmonious one

If you don’t understand how it originated, then your subconscious may keep you operating from an idea that no longer serves you. Knowing what the source is, assists you in eliminating the belief.  For example, if you have believed that “you are too old to start a new career,” and know that this belief comes from fear and a belief you formed when seeing a parent fail while trying to change careers, you can understand why you formed this belief and you can also see the flaw in it.  Recognizing this, you can now easily say “No, that is not true!”

Beliefs and ideas that negatively influence your life are frequently formed by our experiences and our interactions with others. Let’s explore these.

Experiences are events that influence how we think and interact with different situations, people, and life. These events can be traumatic, fun, joyful, or just plain uneventful.  Our beliefs about life and ourselves are often formed at these times.

For example, if you are struggling in a situation, perhaps a certain subject in school, or a game with friends, different ideas are formed about yourself and the world from these situations.  Ideas such as:

      • life is challenging or hard
      • it is difficult to win
      • I’m not smart, intelligent or good

These ideas can then become beliefs, that then influence your actions in life.  If you think you can’t win, you might not enter any contests, or try out for something you would like.  If you do enter a contest, you might pursue it with the belief that you are probably not going to win and your actions will reflect this belief.  Recognizing your beliefs started with a certain situation, i.e. struggling in school or in a game, allows you to see the falseness in that idea. The idea/belief can’t be applied to every situation, however, we seem to do that quite frequently.

Another example of how experiences can influence your beliefs could be an argument that escalated to the point where you may have lost a friendship or a valued relationship. You may come away with beliefs such as

      • standing my ground only results in loss
      • there is no way to peacefully resolve anything
      • why should I try to present my point of view, I will only get hurt

These beliefs become embedded in your subconscious, then affect your behavior and how you react.  It is important to understand that the argument was specific to that time and is not a reflection of future situations.  Future situations may appear the same primarily because of your expectation and belief.  Our perceptions and beliefs often cloud the reality of any situation.

Now let’s look at how people can impact our beliefs.  People are important, however, our relationships with them can impact you significantly in how you view yourself.  Some interactions are positive and others are not.   Take, for example, you are constantly told by family, friends, and/or teachers that you won’t amount to anything.  You may adopt that belief that “you lack any value.”   This often creates self-fulfilling prophecies. It is important to recognize that their words do not represent the truth, but only their perception based on their own limiting beliefs.

Everyone is not a scientist or a mathematician, just as not everyone is a musician or artist. Just think how boring our world would be if we were all the same.  Learn to appreciate and value yourself and every person.  By doing so eliminates the judgments of others and yourself, and the world becomes a nicer place.

What can you do?

      • Be an observer of your thoughts, this way you’ll catch yourself when you are limiting your actions.
      • Ask for help, for your personal guides, and from others.
      • Recognize where the belief came from, this is important so you can understand its’ flaws.

These are just a few things you can do. For more information on these ideas and more see my book “Your Personal Guidance System:  Unlock the Door to the Universe and Experience the Magic!”

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Limiting Beliefs — Influence of Education: Part II

Education is a great thing for many reasons, it helps build social skills, teaches the basics of reading, and brings consistency to our communities.  However, it also can create difficulties for many people.  It isn’t intended to be this way, however unwittingly it does present some challenges for many people.  There are three areas of concern.

      1. Elevation of or de-elevating areas of study
      2. Having unique and different ideas
      3. Problem-solving and how it can be discouraged.

First, the trouble starts, when different subjects are elevated or “de-elevated” as having more or less value.  If you are lucky to have your gifts in the “elevated” subjects, life seems good.  However, if your gifts lie in subjects that are “de-elevated” you may pick up some beliefs that your gifts are not valuable, and even worse that you are not valuable.

Take, for instance, your talents lie in the arts.  When asked to draw a picture, yours is awe-inspiring.  Or, when you’re asked to play some music, your fingers glide over an instrument creating sounds of beauty.

You have great talent; however, you are in an English class where spelling is being taught. The art of spelling just doesn’t come easy to you.  If the ability to spell is viewed as being very important, yet you struggle with it, this is where limiting beliefs may develop.  You start to believe there is something “wrong” with you which may lead to a belief of “I am dimwitted.”  This isn’t true at all. It is only that your gifts do not lie in spelling.  And if the teacher points out your inabilities you again develop other limiting beliefs about yourself, such as “I am stupid.”   Does this sound familiar?

Now, let’s look at it in a different way.  Ask a person whose gifts lie in spelling, to draw a picture.  What you might find is that they draw stick figures very well, but that is all.  Are they “dimwitted” or “stupid?”  No, their gifts are just different.

It is important to recognize and value every persons’ gifts and skills.  When an artist is faced with spelling, they can ask others to edit or proof something.  And when the person who can spell is needing to have a visual piece, he can ask an artist to illustrate the idea.  This not only creates value for each person but also enhances how a true community operates.

One of the ways we elevate subjects over others is by some of the common phrases.  I’m sure you’ve heard of the starving artist, rocket scientist, bean counter, or the trash man.  All of these phrases either elevate or devalue someone.  This inherently creates a belief about that person. It doesn’t mean that they are true, but it can impact a person in how they feel about themselves and how they may react in life. Don’t let “common” phrases or beliefs influence you, look beyond them.

The second area of concern is when you have a different or unique idea.  Have you ever had your idea ignored or even squelched while in school?   When something doesn’t agree with what is being taught, it can be viewed as the person “doesn’t know what they are talking about” or even considered to be “a dumb idea.”  This does not happen all the time, however, it happens more than it should.

If you are the one with the novel idea, you may feel undervalued or become disenchanted.  This also can set up some limiting beliefs.  It can lead you to devalue your inherent gifts and/or become disillusioned with the world.  It may create beliefs such as it is “not safe to speak up,” “present new ideas” or “my ideas are bad.”  This in effect can limit how you see yourself and how you interact with the world.  For example, when an opportunity to bring forward an idea you have, your inner voice might say “remember what happened before, do not suggest it” or you think “no one will listen or believe me, so why should I try.”

If you find yourself thinking these or other negative thoughts, there are things you can do and they are outlined at the end of this article.

Lastly, problem-solving can be discouraged in education.  “How?” you might ask. It happens when the emphasis is on memorizing and knowing facts.  We become used to having the “correct” answers, encouraging you not to “make mistakes.”   What happens when we get the “wrong” answers?  We are penalized for it!  This inadvertently creates a belief that there is only one way to do something and blocks our ability to look at a situation in a different way, hence new solutions or ideas are not encouraged or brought forward.

In having a belief such as, “it is important to have the right answer,” your inner voice cautions “you might fail if you try something different” preventing you from attempting anything new.

What can you do?

In addition to the suggestions in my previous blog article: Limiting Beliefs and the Influences of Culture: Part I the following are some other things to consider.

      1. Follow your heart. Find the courage to listen, and take action.
      2. Look at the consequences of your belief. How is it preventing you from living your life fully?
      3. How has the belief become your expectation of the future?
      4. Identify what you want, and look at how you may be blocking it by beliefs you have acquired.
      5. Identify the excuses that you indulge in. What negative or pessimistic thoughts do you have?  How do these thoughts and excuses impact your actions?

Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed.  By taking one step at a time in following your heart, I’m sure you’ll find your way to happiness.

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Limiting Beliefs and the Influences of Culture: Part I

So, what are limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs influence how you make decisions, interpret situations, and how you interact in life.

These beliefs have been accumulated throughout our life from a variety of places. Have you ever noticed that you always seem to get the same results no matter what you do?  It’s very possible that you have a belief that is sabotaging your actions.

These beliefs and what you might call foundations in which you interact with your world. For example, when you are in a new environment, you rely on the information that you have accumulated whether it is true or not. Let’s say you are invited to a social event where there will be drinking. Based on what you have been taught, you may be leery about going because alcohol will be served there, or you may be excited because it might indicate to you that you will have fun. Either reaction is based on beliefs which limit how you will interpret and perceive the event.

How you interpret your situations, make decisions, and react to different circumstances is influenced by your thoughts and ideas, that have primarily been accumulated through life’s experiences, education, and culture.   These beliefs can confine and limit your understanding of your situation and are often called limiting beliefs because they:

      • Limit your actions,
      • Limit how you see the world and
      • Limit your potential for happiness.

To help understand how a limiting belief influences you and comes about, think about a dog that is “crate trained” to sleep in the crate.  This method can create a sense of security for the dog. The dog may go there when feeling anxious or when it wants to sleep. After some time, the dog will not need to be told to go into the crate. The dog will automatically go in there, even though the dog is safe sleeping elsewhere. Unless shown otherwise, the dog feels most secure sleeping in a crate. A limiting belief was formed for the dog “that it is safest to sleep in a crate.”

Training is just one of the ways we can acquire limiting beliefs. Other ways we develop these limiting beliefs come from people, education, and the cultures you are raised in.

Are you aware that the beliefs you acquire from different cultures can wreak havoc in your life? They can distort your perception of the world and influence how you interpret messages that you receive from the universe.  Sometimes opportunities are lost because of these beliefs.

Cultures impact us in the following ways.  It is not all-inclusive but where many limiting beliefs come from:

      1. by creating feelings of being less than, when you feel different or disagree with the culture
      2. by placing an emphasis on following strict values, which can limit your thoughts and actions in critical situations.

Cultural beliefs and values are interesting as they primarily come from the people you identify with.  For example, there was the “hippie” generation which focused primarily on love and peace. Today the ‘millennials” are confident and achievement-oriented. Each of these generations may influence the thoughts, ideas, and beliefs you might have. What beliefs do you have from your generation?

Another culture, which you may not consider is living in rural communities vs. city dwellers. If you are from a rural area, you may have obtained some beliefs about living in the city, and city dwellers may have beliefs about living in the country. Where were you raised? What influences or beliefs did you acquire?

I would like to share my beliefs about rural communities before I moved to one recently.  In the past, I would not have even considered the move. I had beliefs that it would have limited opportunities in my career and also felt that it would have limited my life. I’m sure this came from always living in a city.  With the current move, I have discovered quite the opposite to be true. My life has been enriched by the friendliness of a small community, the wildlife and the many adventures we have taken. I now see that there were many opportunities I may have missed by not living in a rural area! What about you? What beliefs do you have?

Another example of cultural influence is when we look at families. One culture may place a great emphasis on family, especially the elders, while another culture may value the young and place more importance on the individual. Neither is right or wrong, but they both influence how you think the world should operate. What is the American influence on? Individuals? Families? Group? What did your family focus on?

The above are just a few of the cultural influences that shape our beliefs and our lives.

The problem that occurs in cultures is when you feel different from the group.  This can make you feel “less than” others or feel that you don’t fit in.  This is where limiting beliefs can originate.  For example, beliefs such as “I’m different, therefore something must be wrong”, “I’m not good enough” (otherwise I would be like the others).  Cultures can also instill fear when your ideas are different from theirs. Ideas that differ must be “bad,” “wrong” or “evil.”  This too can create a limiting belief.

When living within a culture, you might fit part of it, but other parts may not resonate with you.  It’s these elements, that can make you feel inferior, or left out. This in turn can create some of your limiting beliefs, and adversely affect your ideas about who you are. Take a look at any of your feelings of inadequacy, and see whether those feelings are true. I’ll bet when it is looked at objectively, you’ll find that they are not true.

Some of the feelings of being different may create beliefs such as “I am flawed in some way,” “others can do it better than me” or “something is wrong with me” to name a few when our feelings of being “different” set in.

Values such as loyalty, honesty, and responsibility can become limiting beliefs when they are strictly adhered to. These may seem like very good traits to have and they are, but they can also impact you negatively.

Take, for example, loyalty. It is defined as giving firm and consistent support to someone or something.  Generally speaking, loyalty is good for many reasons, but when strictly followed it can limit your actions and your thoughts.

For example, I am very loyal to people and companies. When I was employed, I had a boss who I was very supportive of and respected. My boss had asked me to support the dismissal of an employee. It did not make sense to me, yet because of my loyalty to him, I seriously considered the dismissal. I was not in favor of it, but because I trusted him more than I did myself, I agreed with it. Fortunately, the decision was postponed and we soon came to realize that it would not have been wise. This employee turned out to be one of our best employees.

To discover whether a long-term loyalty or other value, is appropriate for a situation, look to your feelings, trust yourself, and find the courage to take appropriate action.

What can you do when you discover a limiting belief?  Here are a few things that can help you when you discover a limiting belief.

      1. Listen to your thoughts and recognize when you are devaluing yourself.
      2. Decide that you are worthwhile, discover what makes you unique and accept who you are.
      3. Deprogram the belief. Identify where it came from and what the belief is.  In a short meditation:
        • Say “No” to where it came from.
        • Say “No” to the limiting belief
        • Ask that it be transformed into harmony.
      4. Embrace your uniqueness—your talents, your gifts, your nature!

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